If you really love her, just let her go for her sake. There are so many girls in this world, and she isn't the only one. Pray to God and ask whatever you need. My prayer will be with you. God Bless you.

Mikey I wish you luck and give yoou my support at this time. I hate to say this but maybe for her it wasn't out of the blue. it's not your fault and i think you need to accept that before you can move on. It wont be easy but if you want to talk im here

I honestly believe in the phrase, "time heals all wounds". I have been married 3 times and divorced 3 times. My last marriage ended, mostly do to his use of drugs, but one of the things he said to me was "I'm not in love with you anymore". I moved out and walked away and never looked back all within two weeks. That was 2 yrs ago. I know my hurt today does not compare at all with the hurt 2 yrs ago. It will get better. Believe in yourself and if you have a religion, talk with God. It helps.

I've experienced this numerous times in my life with breakups and such. This is really hard on you because she fell out of love, and somehow you are blaming yourself for it. You probably ask yourself constantly, "was it something I did?", "was it something I said?", "was it something I didn't do?".

The truth is, it's not your fault. People think they fall in love because of the chemicals that flood our body when we find a suitable mate. But after 10 yrs, the sight of each other does not induce those feelings anymore. Many people accept it and learn to love each other regardless, but some people do not accept it.

What has helped me in the past is distractions. I would pick up a new hobby. Constantly keep friends around me. Keep reminding myself that life goes on, and I might end up meeting someone better because of the breakup. Time eventually heals anything.

Good luck!

I've never been through a divorce with anyone, but I have been through a rough breakup. Maybe since she left you so suddenly, you need to have closure. It may be too late after ten years, but if it's possible to call her and ask for this closure you may need, it could help a lot.