how to accept nephews anti-social behaviour

asked by dawn sutton on 1 December 2007 13:25


28 yr. old nephew living with 50 yr. old aunt, 54 yr. old uncle. both of us have poor health. been living with us for 3 mo. now. he tried to take his life 6 times now, the last attempt he came to us to live. he has been diagnosed with social phobia, depression. I'm having an extremely hard time dealing with his lack of love for people. he plays warcraft or on the computer non stop. he says he doesn't like people, says he doesn't care about anything. says he doesn't have anything to do if not on computer. when we told him that we don't allow all this computer game playing, he went into his shell. he's in therapy, $135 per session, about 7 sessions now, plus we've taken him every 2 weeks to a pastor at Emmanuel Faith Church, went thru the victory from darkness series. he didn't do well at all at his 1st celebrate recovery meeting. he accepted Christ over a month ago, but ,and i hate to think it, just did it to make my husband & myself happy. it's very up setting, & making me ill watching him day after day on these computer games. my husband & i are at odds, been married 33 yrs. don't want our nephew to leave, he'd be home-less, might try suicide again-uggg... what to do with some one who doesn't like people & doesn't care. i'm in mental turmoil here.........AUNT IN ANGUISH

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I have a form of what your refering to, I don't like to be around people I don't know & I above all Hate to be touched.

First question: is he playing Warcraft or World of Warcraft? if he is playing World of Warcraft (wow) then he is actually socializing with people all over the world & the game is really fun, I think he'll like it. If not, Find him a chat room, or help him find an online roll playing game like I used to play where it is like a giant chat room with diffrent types of rooms & you get to create who you are & how they behave (allot like wow).

Don't pressure him to go places to crowded like churches, he may actually practice a religon that you don't know of. Invite him to go to the grocery store with you or something on days that are not to crowded. As it seems he is a gamer find a good gaming shop in your area, he might get into card games like magic the gathering (very social).


answered by SW_Succubus on 10 January 2008 10:44

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You'll probably not know, but your Nephew probably hates going to the Church. He just wants the experience to be over and done with. I believe as an emotional teen myself, its to somehow convince him that you're there for him. The internet is a wonderful place, but its ridden with negative influences and whatnot.

Give him a hug from the back, cuddle him telling him you're seriously worried, and really want to know what's bothering him. The worst thing you can do is rip away his computer gaming. In his mind, you're just proving his point that "life is meaningless". Its a little complicated problem, since all he's actually done is stayed on the computer.

I'm not sure if there's any such groups over there, but there are certain communities that cater to anti-social people such as himself, and playing games with interaction, such as MMORPGs, might improve this for a little. But with the risk of internet relationships, it might open him up, but it might also break him down more if it doesn't go so well.

Quiet walks around town, taking your time with him, teaching him the finer points of life. Thats the challenge. Its not going to be an easy task and I apologize if I haven't been of any great help at all.

I wish you all the best.


answered by Shaftronics on 4 December 2007 21:07

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